Disrespect or Modern Parenting? Kenyans React to Sky Victor Ordering Tash Around

The “Kanyari Family Soap Opera” has delivered a new episode that has taken social media by storm. In a viral video that has sparked a widespread uproar, Sky Victor—the outspoken daughter of the late gospel singer Betty Bayo and Pastor Victor Kanyari—is seen engaging in a remarkably firm and “commanding” interaction with her stepfather, Hiram Gitau, popularly known as Tash or “Dari.” The clip captures Sky giving Tash strict instructions, questioning his movements, and even demanding he bring her “Gummy Bears” while forbidding him from opening her packages. While the interaction might seem like typical teenage sass to some, it has reignited a fierce public debate about parenting, boundaries, and the complex reality of blended families in the limelight.

A major point of contention among netizens is the difference in cultural expectations. Many observers attribute Sky’s bold personality to her “diaspora” upbringing. Having spent significant time abroad and being exposed to a more Westernized, expressive style of communication, Sky’s behavior often clashes with traditional Kenyan expectations of how a child should address an adult. Even her biological father, Pastor Kanyari, has previously admitted that his children can be “difficult” to live with because they are “foreign” in their behaviors. This “culture clash” is at the heart of the controversy, with some fans defending her as a confident, modern girl and others labeling the behavior as a lack of respect for authority.

Since the tragic passing of Betty Bayo, Tash has remained a central figure in the children’s lives, continuing to raise them despite the absence of their mother. This video has put his role under the microscope once again. Some argue that Tash is being “overpowered” by the children and that the lack of traditional discipline could lead to long-term behavioral issues. On the other hand, many praise Tash for his patience and for providing a stable, loving environment for Sky and her brother during an incredibly difficult period of grief. They argue that his gentle approach is exactly what the children need as they heal.

The uproar has also turned the spotlight back onto Pastor Kanyari. The preacher has recently expressed his own concerns, noting that his children have become “aggressive” or “fierce” since their mother’s death. Kanyari has even shared his fears that the children might eventually forget him as they grow closer to Tash. Despite Kanyari’s public claims of providing for them, the children remain with Tash. This viral video has only fueled the fire for those demanding Kanyari take a more active, traditional role in their upbringing to provide what they perceive as necessary discipline.

As the drama continues to play out on digital screens, it serves as a reminder of the challenges faced by children growing up in the public eye—especially within a blended family navigating loss. Whether Sky Victor is simply a “boss girl” in the making or a child pushing boundaries, her viral moments continue to hold a mirror up to Kenyan society’s evolving views on parenting and respect.